Parents want their children to show up at their best when facing people outside the family. Off course everyone want other people to appreciate their child as much as they do themself. But to teach the child to always do what other people expect or like them to do doesn't protect your child. On the contrary, it can be really dangerous.
If you force your child to hug grandma even the times he doesn't want to hug her himself, you teach him not being able to decide over his own body or intimate sphere.
Don't force your child to let anyone into his intimate sphere if he doesn't want to. It can lead to really bad or dangerous situations.
The worst case: when he's alone at the playground he doesn't think he can decide over his body if a stranger approaches him and tries to do something inappropriate with him.
What you can do to protect your child
Teach your child to do only things that feel okay for him. Protect his intimate sphere by don't make him do things on command to please others or to make yourself shine as a parent.
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